Spiritual Care: At the Beginning, In the Middle and At the End of Life

Where do you think a person needs the most and intense spiritual care in the course of a life?  Would it be as a child, a teenager, a young or median aged adult, or in the senior years?  That’s a hard question to answer for me and maybe hard for you to answer as well.   As a hospital chaplain there is no doubt that much of my time is willingly and humbly spent caring for senior adult patients and those nearing the end of life.  But I want to make the case for the idea, somewhat self-evident, that all aged people need spiritual care and the individual has the task of finding ways to meet those needs.

I remember our oldest daughter’s “baby dedication” at Emmanuel Baptist Church in West Chester, PA in late 1989.  I was so proud of her and she was a delight.  I still remember the pink bow/ribbon and beautiful pink dress she adorned.  I felt very proud and greatly humbled to be part of the service where she was dedicated to God and I was dedicating myself to raise her up in the ways of the LORD.  Children are the beneficiaries of the spiritual work and dedication that parents exercise and those actions can include bringing them to religious training classes, regular worship and special events like Vacation Bible School. 

Eventually kids grow up and they have to decide for themselves how they will chart their spiritual journeys.  Which books will they read?  Will they attend services?  Will they go with their parents?  Those questions become more open ended and answerable by the growing and maturing teen and young adult.  Eventually, a person in young adulthood tests their faith and follows the similar road of parents or maybe even goes in the total opposite direction.  Then, at some point, middle aged adults have the task of finding ways to remain faithful to their religious ideals or to chart new spiritual goals.  Here’s my point:  Spiritual needs and growth can happen at all ages, not just end of life or in the senior adult years. 

Self-awareness and self-reflection are two very important focal points for spiritual growth.  Looking inward to one’s emotions, spiritual beliefs, and values helps one to gain a more sure understanding of one’s present condition.  Looking outward to God, nature, a higher power, or even more spiritually minded people can be healthy and helpful too.  There are many spiritual caregivers in the world who are more than willing to help us on our journey.  That may be a chaplain, a pastor, a rabbi, an imam, or a pastoral counselor.  Challenges throughout the life cycle will surely come.   When those tests appear, don’t forget to find a spiritual caregiver who can guide you and help you regardless of one’s age or one’s problems and needs.  The time for spiritual growth is always today and always now.  May you be blessed as you spiritually grow and develop in the coming days and months.  

Sky Pilot: The Chaplain's Calling

The Sky pilot blesses his people. His prayers are from the heart. His prayers come from his soul. His prayers are given with all of his efforts, for who knows, the Holy One may answer! Fear is a two way street. The Sky pilot (chaplain) is sometimes just as fearful as those with whom he visits and offers prayer. His words are his heartfelt attempt to tell them God is with them, even in death. The parents at home are just as scared as the Sky pilot and the soldiers going off to war. All prayers are true to the Sky pilot’s heart and work. Whether the prayer is liturgical, extemporaneous, or mumbled, the Sky pilot still prays and still whispers the words, “God will be with you.” Prayers are offered for ALL WAR TO END. Even so, the prayers sometime feel unanswered and death seems to gain the victory. Yet, continual meditation and prayers are the way to victory for the Sky pilot and the soldiers and airmen. The Sky pilot wants the soldiers to find courage and he is sometimes the inspiration for others to go on, sometimes in fighting and sometimes in humble acceptance of God’s will and humanity’s will. Even the faithful Sky pilot needs rest and prayer, and so do the soldiers and airmen. Rest that only God can give. Rest to believe and to hope and to live faithfully in the middle of troubles. Sometimes service to God and to country supersede service to family and friends, even if the end goal may be uncertain. After all, no one knows for sure if one will reach the sky. At times, death happens and one soldier kills another and the Sky pilot has to find the words of love and care. Yes, it’s a holy mission for holy men and women. We need more Sky pilots. Will you pray? Will you help the dying? Will you love in the midst of hate? If so, you are a band of brothers and sisters called Sky pilots. Welcome to the Call and the Sky!

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(Eric Burdon and The Animals, 1968)

YouTube and Earbuds: Leaning Into New Technology

I must admit that the availability of YouTube and my iPhone earbuds have been a new and pleasant surprise for me in my on going needs for learning and enjoyment.  My 22 year old son’s love for YouTube used to amaze me and caused me to reflect on his fixation of its use.  I would commonly think to myself, “He sure does use YouTube a lot” …. “I wonder why?”   It is now making more and more sense as I have begun to use YouTube for my continuing education and spiritual needs around the topics of spirituality, faith, psychology, music and personal growth.   My cell phone plan gives me unlimited access to YouTube and that includes music and whole albums from generations past.     

Technology is a lot like the unwrapped gift waiting for me to open it up and taking the first step to learn something new.  That includes using my earbuds, finally.  It also includes wading into the deep waters of YouTube and checking out its usefulness.  Yes, YouTube is amazingly useful and a goldmine and resource of free information.  It’s a gift of modern technology that is ready for the taking and use.  Tapping into YouTube has reminded me, once again, that learning and personal growth are up to me.    Opening myself to new technology, YouTube and earbuds, have paid surprisingly good learning dividends for me.    My next step is to dive into audio books, and I am eager to discover if audio books are good for me and my needs.  Feel free to send or post your thoughts on audio books and YouTube.  I welcome your opinions on both.  Thanks.

The Backup Quarterback: The Most Liked Guy on the Team

I am still pondering the feat and work and magic that happened on Sunday night in Houston.  New England should not have been able to come back and win after being down a huge 25 points going late into the third quarter.  Everyone loves the backup quarterback.  After all, when the team is down and the quarterback is not getting the job done, the backup looks and feels like the guy who could answer the bell and bring back some mojo and maybe get some points on the scoreboard.  Three points is not enough to win the Super Bowl and neither are 6^th round picks from college supposed to go on and win 5 Super Bowls.  And I am convinced that no one, hardly no one, could name the New England Patriot’s backup QB.  I know that I can’t name him and I consider myself an informed fan.  Yet, Tom Brady, who I like to call Captain America, lead his team to an unbelievable comeback win that is still hard to believe.  What’s ironic is the fact that Brady himself was the backup QB at Michigan in college.  Then, he barely got drafted and some say very late, in the 6^th round as the 199th overall pick.  Many 6^th rounders never make a pro team—never.  Yet, Brady, the underachiever turned overachiever was leading his TEAM to victory Sunday.

Some people say there is no “I” in the word “TEAM.”  I would beg to differ.  In fact without a strong “I” and a strong commitment to “TEAM,” there is no way Brady does what he does on Sunday.  I admire how he kept his head in the game, kept believing, kept pushing even after numerous sacks by Atlanta.  Brady never got down on his fellow TEAMmates.  He kept believing.  There were even times where he seemed to be focusing, meditating, praying, or whatever you want to call it.  There were times he was doing some serious soul-searching and some serious questioning, “Can we do this?”  He was looking in his own heart and challenging his own self and counting his own costs to push himself to a most improbable victory. 

So, who is the New England backup QB?   Just for fun I looked it up and his name is Jimmy Garoppolo.  He is a third year player out of Eastern Illinois.  To be honest I have not heard of him nor did I know that Eastern Illinois had a football team.    I am sure that Jimmy G is not the most liked guy on the team.  That is usually reserved for teams where the starter and backup are close in skill and talent and the one not playing is the one who fans think the backup can reignite or inspire a lackluster team.  What’s really amazing is the fact that Garoppolo has the blessing of watching and seeing one of the greatest QB’s do his work. 

Finally, I want to believe Tom Brady’s will to win is the engine that drives his success. He is determined and so fiercely competitive and has not done too bad for a backup QB in college and a 6^th round draft pick.  He sure knows how to be a positive “I” and positive force for a TEAM that truly believed in itself. 

Pecans and a Hopeful Future

Mr. and Mrs. Tommy and Carolyn Glover are some special friends. They are in their early 80’s and have lived productive and sacrificial lives as dedicated employees, caring family leaders, and faithful church members. Tommy and Carolyn live in Dallas, North Carolina in the heart of the Piedmont with rolling hills, farmland, hardwoods, muscadine grapes, and pecan trees. He even boasts that some of the same rock and stone from famous Stone Mountain Georgia actually traverses the land northeastward into his own yard. I have seen the rock projecting upward in the ground and yard and I will accept his declaration as fact.

Tommy shared with me that he has planted some pecan trees in his yard for future family generations to enjoy. I love pecans and Mrs. Carolyn can make a pecan pie like nobody else. Brother Tommy’s pecan trees will take somewhere between 7-15 years to bear fruit. You get the point. He is planting so that others would one day reap.

I am enjoying this time in my life. My kids are grown and they are continuing to exercise their independence, thereby giving me more freedom to invest my time and energy in some new ways. Now, more than ever, I think about how my work, my skills, my investments are helping others to build their future and reap a good harvest. Mr. and Mrs. Tommy and Carolyn Glover continue to show me how to invest, plant, and nurture our kids, our next generation, grand kids, and the faith communities. Even in the midst of a divided nation, I will continue to hope and live and help push forward the vision of creating a society where life, liberty and prosperity for all can become the present reality and norm. We can do it—one person and one action at a time.

How Much Education and Experience? Jump In Now.

If one is not careful, myself included, it would be easy to say “I’m not ready to do such and such until I have the right education, right experience, right boss, right job location, right office location, etc.”  I want to challenge that idea for me and for you.  Why not just jump in and do what you can with what you have and then worry about the next degree, the next training class, or getting the right job and location before challenging yourself to new tasks and new learning?  Maybe you are ready.  Maybe the time has come, like the musician Meatloaf sang, “Put me in coach, I’m ready to play…”  Now, don’t get me wrong because I do think we need minimal education levels and standards.  Yet, there are times when the clock is ticking and time is running out.  We only have today and we are not guaranteed tomorrow.  So, as you begin this New Year, I invite you to join me to “Jump in” and tackle some new work goals and some tasks that have learning curves, even big curves.  Maybe you and others and I are ready to move forward with challenging ourselves to try out some new things.  I think so and I am wishing everyone the courage to do so.  Time is short or at the least we are on the clock. 

Birmingham Bowl Reflection: A Fast 40 Hours

*I don’t think the South Florida fans were feeling as optimistic when South Carolina scored a very late touchdown and then made the 2 point conversion. It got rather quiet on that side of the field. Of course, that changed when USF threw for 7 in overtime. I really thought Carolina had a chance to win in OT. Until then it was a very lopsided game.

*The rivalry between Bama and Auburn is real. Just seeing the license plate battle (who had which team on their plate) says it all.

*The light poles of The Old Grey Lady (the nickname of Legion Field) had to be at least 50 years old. They had weather worn rust and looked all of their age. Kind of like some of us fans.

*The So. Florida fans were unfortunate having the shady side of the field. Most of the time that is an advantage, especially in the south and summertime. Not so much on December 29 with a gusty cold front blowing through the night before the game.

*Birmingham is surrounded by the most southern end of the Appalachian mountain chain and that part of Appalachia is a striking feature of the city and area. I must say rather beautiful.

*Uptown Birmingham is nice, albeit a bit new by all appearances. It’s in the heart of downtown and had some nice restaurants and entertainment. It is a nice feature for Birmingham to showcase.

*I-20 through Atlanta reminded me of NASCAR--again. Everyone does 70 mph and above—easy.

*I am convinced that car turn signals are outlawed in Alabama. It seems that very, very few people used them. (See note on NASCAR and I-20 above…)

*You know you are in the south when you have the option of buying “Dreamland Barbeque” from one of those mobile van hitch and go restaurants.

*Sometimes the best part of traveling is turning down and getting some much needed sleep.

*The next best thing sometimes is the wake up free breakfast at the hotel. It’s never good to overeat, but…

*How is that 18 hour bowl game trips feel like 7 days after the fact??

*Having 2 bowl game travelers made some things less complicated. For example when people car pooled and traveled with 8 or more it can make choosing the place to eat a bit more complicated.

*Columbia SC feels more southern than Birmingham AL. It’s an intuitive thing. Hard to say why but it just feels that way.

*The Vulcan statue is an impressive sight as it oversees the city of Birmingham and gives a nod to metalworking and production of steel in the city.  

*You know you are in the southern Appalachians when the warm up street party has a band with an electric ukulele and an electric banjo.

*Hotel coffee is never as good as the stuff at home. Never.

*Mid-level bowl games are less expensive in all ways compared to the major bowls. Cheap is good sometimes.

*It’s ok to lose a bowl game. It is obvious that many mid-level bowls are very family friendly. I saw tons of younger fans. That’s a good thing. Again, cheaper is good especially with families with kids who went to the bowl.

*This was my second bowl game. First was the Liberty Bowl in 2006. Lots of fun. Highly recommend if one is willing to spend the money and time.

*Most of all, hanging out with my son, Austin, now that is priceless.  

*GO GAMECOCKS! Hoping to go bowling in 2017 in a bigger and better bowl.